Isang Babae Naningil ng ‘Ninang Fee’ sa Kaibigang Asawa ng Seaman

When the woman refused to pay for the cake, her “friend” then told her she is no longer eligible to be her baby’s godmother.

In the Philippines, being a godparent to a friend or family’s child has become an obligation to give gifts on birthdays and Christmas. Though many are willing to do so, there are some who are on a tight budget and can’t come up with the money for such a tradition. Sadly, they are subjected to being called negligent and selfish. 

Photo Angel Samarita Perez

This stigma has led to many people refusing to be godparents, knowing that they would be constantly asked for help for the child. The true meaning of being a godparent is a person who presents a child at baptism and promises to take responsibility for their religious education, but it has become a different kind of obligation for many Filipinos.

Photo Angel Samarita Perez

One woman ranted about being a godparent on Facebook after a friend “removed” her from the list for refusing to pay for a fee. The “friend” was asking for an 800-peso fee, and money for a three-layer cake! The post’s author politely refused, saying she doesn’t have that kind of money, especially when they just celebrated her own child’s birthday recently. According to Facebook user Angel Perez, they only bought a single-layer cake and it already cost her 3,000 pesos. “Bakit parang kasalanan ko pa,” she said on her post.

Photo Angel Samarita Perez

Instead of accepting whatever Angel can offer, the friend then pointed out the fact that she was married to a seaman, and that they have money for sure. Still, Angel politely explained that she cannot afford to buy the three-layer cake. Disappointed by Angel’s decision, the woman then told her that she’s off the list, and that they would be inviting someone else who is willing to pay for the fee and the cake.